- What's a psychological trick you wish you had learned 10 years earlier?
I'm curious to hear the little psychological tricks, mental shifts, or mindset changes that genuinely made your life easier. Not necessarily complicated psychology theories, but practical things...
1,068 points171 comments4 d ago
- All my friends are now choosing comfort/convenience over effort :(
As I age, now almost 50, all my friends (mostly my age, independently wealthy, family-oriented dudes) have taken a sharp turn towards choosing comfort/convenience on every damn thing, and I'm the...
804 points813 comments2 d ago
- Cal Newport’s "So Good They Can’t Ignore You" completely destroyed my old career mindset. Here’s why chasing "passion" is a trap (and what to do instead).
Hey r/selfimprovement, If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably heard the classic career advice a million times: "Follow your passion and you’ll never work a day in your life." Well, I finally...
324 points22 comments5 d ago
- How do I get over the fact that I’ve pretty much wasted my 20s
I went to college when I was 18 and flunked out. For the next 10 years I had to work full time at shitty minimum wage jobs. I was going to community college online as well but I had multiple...
323 points87 comments4 d ago
- 4am-5:30pm job is burning me out and I can't quit
I've got a nice government job with pension, I'm 10 years in with 20 more to go. but I live 1:30hours away no traffic in the morning and 2-2:30hours of traffic on the way home. I wanted a house...
257 points73 comments5 d ago
- Unfortunately, the world is happier when you are miserable.
I had this conversation with a good friend recently. We both have fallen victim to lust, drug addiction, antisocial behaviour, violence and crime. We have also both managed to turn these things...
199 points23 comments4 d ago
- How to stop being a manchild and act more like an adult?
I was incredibly sheltered, poorly socialised, autistic, severe family trauma, held bitterness for most of my life and didn't want to be an adult. Even though I've been working since I was legally...
189 points37 comments6 d ago
- What did you spend years chasing that you no longer want?
A career, a lifestyle, a certain kind of success, something that once felt important but doesn't anymore.
179 points283 comments2 d ago
- Mid-30s, mentally exhausted, lonely and full of resentment. How do I stop surviving and actually start living?
Hi all, I’m in my mid-30s, and lately I’ve been grieving how much of my life I feel I’ve lost. I’ve struggled with mental health issues since I was young. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD,...
172 points36 comments7 d ago
- What book actually helped you become a better version of yourself?
I’ve been getting more into reading lately, especially books about personal growth, psychology, philosophy, and understanding life. I’ve read Atomic Habits, Meditations, Siddhartha, and The...
161 points66 comments5 d ago