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What r/relationships_advice is talking about this week

r/relationships_advice has 124,735 members and more than 100 posts in the last 24 hours, with about 87.3 comments an hour right now. From the Redlisten index, refreshed daily.

124,735members
100+posts in the last 24 hours, newest 15 min ago
87.3comments an hour right now, newest 18 min ago
105points on the top thread this week

Words coming up in r/relationships_advice this week

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Top threads this week

  1. My husband wants a nontraditional relationship, but I’m struggling with the idea. What compromises are actually possible?

    My husband and I have been having conversations about relationship structures and what fulfillment looks like for each of us. He has expressed that traditional monogamy may not be what he...

    105 points1,034 comments4 d ago
  2. I broke up with my girlfriend after what happened over Halloween, but now she's apologizing and wants to get back together. I'm not sure what to do.

    I'm honestly looking for some outside perspective because I'm not sure if I made the right decision or if I'm letting my emotions get the better of me. About a month before Halloween, my...

    50 points186 comments6 d ago
  3. Should I have sex with another woman.

    I M25 have been with my girlfriend F22 for three years now. It’s my longest relationship, and she means everything to me. I love her deeply, and I know she loves me just as much. We were friends...

    38 points191 comments6 d ago
  4. My boyfriend of 5 years lied about being divorced. We have a whole ass toddler together.

    I (29F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for five years, and we have a 2-year-old daughter together. When we first met, he had been separated from his wife for about 5–6 months. He told me their...

    31 points157 comments20 h ago
  5. What's a relationship red flag that people keep romanticizing?

    What’s something society praises as a virtue, but you secretly think is actually a bad thing?

    26 points124 comments3 d ago
  6. My boyfriend didn't tell me about his history with a girl in his social circle, then let her subtly humiliate me at a party.

    I(23F) need some perspective on a situation that happened with my boyfriend(26M) at a Halloween party, and how he has handled the aftermath. My boyfriend previously hooked up casually (multiple...

    23 points26 comments4 d ago
  7. Am I overreacting

    Went to the bar with my girlfriend (36f) me a (40m) as we are in line she is like hey there is a guy who I used to hook up down there and if he sees me he may come over and say I and give me a...

    19 points20 comments3 d ago
  8. I need to know this: Does my girlfriend 36F have double standards when it comes to me 32M?

    Brief context: A month ago, she asked me to remove women from past on my Instagram. I told her there was no need for that, as it’s a personal rule of mine not to keep women from my past on my...

    16 points47 comments1 d ago
  9. My (30M) girlfriend (27) wants to meet an old hinge match who is flying into town.

    For the record we’ve been dating for 4 months, official for 2 months. They matched on hinge around beginning of this year and have not met physically in person. She wants to meet him because he...

    16 points40 comments5 d ago
  10. Wife wants a spectator

    Please advice, married for 8 years, 39m and 31f, she requested something weird, she wants us to get a girl to watch us while making love. At first i though she was joking but then she said why not...

    15 points21 comments3 d ago

Newest posts

  1. How to control lust? Or are my needs just being suppressed?
    1 points1 comment15 min ago
  2. Emotionally exhausted, please help
    1 points1 comment16 min ago
  3. I (18f) found out my bf (18m) has been hiding his romantic relation with his childhood bsf
    1 points1 comment27 min ago
  4. I found out his family friends doesn’t like that he’s dating me
    1 points1 comment29 min ago
  5. How can I (21M) rebuild trust with my ex (21F) when her friendship with a male coworker continues to cause conflict?
    1 points1 comment49 min ago
  6. is it normal for me (18f) to still feel extremely connected to my first relationship (25m) even though he put me through bad stuff?
    1 points0 comments55 min ago
  7. Need someone to vent to
    1 points1 comment1 h ago
  8. I (26F) have a crush on a coworker (26M) but have a longterm partner (28M)...
    1 points1 comment2 h ago
  9. How are we supposed to learn to have healthy relationships if we don’t know what we don’t know? (26F)
    1 points1 comment2 h ago
  10. 23M and 21F Open Relationship
    1 points1 comment2 h ago
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