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What r/DecidingToBeBetter is talking about this week

r/DecidingToBeBetter has 1,410,468 members and 15 posts in the last 24 hours, with about 2.5 comments an hour right now. From the Redlisten index, refreshed daily.

1,410,468members
15posts in the last 24 hours, newest 2 h ago
2.5comments an hour right now, newest 7 h ago
431points on the top thread this week

Words coming up in r/DecidingToBeBetter this week

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Top threads this week

  1. What's a psychological trick you wish you had learned 10 years earlier?

    I'm curious to hear the little psychological tricks, mental shifts, or mindset changes that genuinely made your life easier. Not necessarily complicated psychology theories, but practical things...

    431 points111 comments4 d ago
  2. I changed my life in 2 days.

    After years of depression, multiple failed attempts even as recent as 2 months ago I have changed my life completely in 48 hours. How? I don’t know myself. I woke up and decided to pursue...

    226 points44 comments7 d ago
  3. Those who turned your life around in your early 30s, what's your story and how did you do it?

    I'm 32. I've made so many questionable decisions. I know lots of people rebuild their life in their 30s. Would really appreciate stories of people who went through hard times and changed their...

    172 points33 comments5 d ago
  4. I'm 27 and just feel stuck in life, no plans, no goals, lost passion, no degree, no job? I need help.

    I’m 27F, and honestly, I feel like I’ve wasted years of my life. It’s been this way since I was a kid: I’ve never really done much or figured out what I want. I partly blame my parents, but I also...

    129 points40 comments3 d ago
  5. It's time. I need to get rid of Reddit, please help so that I don't end up coming back.

    I joined Reddit 10 or so years ago because it was a good thing in my life. I looked forward to opening it up and laughing at some funny posts or having wholesome conversations with people in the...

    55 points20 comments4 d ago
  6. I’m 26, unemployed, living with my parents, have never been in a relationship, and genuinely don’t know how to get my life together.

    I’m 26 and honestly feel like a bit of a loser. I’m not sure whether I’m looking for advice, a place to vent, or reassurance from people who have been in a similar situation, but I really need to...

    46 points10 comments5 d ago
  7. Need help with controlling urges

    I'm in a relationship, but I masturbate far more than I want to, and I feel horny almost constantly. For a long time that meant a lot of porn. I tried quitting, but I ended up swapping it for...

    46 points26 comments5 d ago
  8. How to stop falling for every guy who is kind

    I'm a woman in my 20s and all my life I've always had a crush on guys sometimes multiple just because they were guys (as a kid). As I grew up it was mostly looks and personality and nowadays still...

    32 points14 comments4 d ago
  9. Freshly broke up, Scared I Won't Find Better

    I broke up with my boyfriend two days ago, and it's been incredibly difficult. We're still in contact because we're both too attached, but I know I'll eventually have to cut contact completely to...

    31 points27 comments5 d ago
  10. How can I stop dwelling so much on things that have already happened?

    Hey guys Well, I've been suffering a lot from memories of wrong things I've done, whether things I did thinking it was for the best at the time, loss of control, or Silly mistakes, Mistakes that...

    26 points18 comments6 d ago

Newest posts

  1. Has anyone actually overcome these patterns? Looking for advice from people who have been through this.
    1 points0 comments2 h ago
  2. wanting to start a new life
    1 points0 comments5 h ago
  3. How do I get better at speaking?
    1 points0 comments6 h ago
  4. getting stuck improving my life
    1 points0 comments6 h ago
  5. Restarting life at 54. Needing to find motivation.
    1 points0 comments9 h ago
  6. How do I overcome the approach freeze?
    1 points0 comments9 h ago
  7. My morning is how I start winning the day 1yr 41dys alcohol free and 5yrs drug free
    1 points0 comments10 h ago
  8. I’m afraid I might be a narcissist
    1 points0 comments10 h ago
  9. Empty after reaching milestone
    1 points0 comments11 h ago
  10. Why dentists are sad - TAT and internal motives
    1 points0 comments12 h ago
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