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What r/dating_advice is talking about this week

r/dating_advice has 4,930,342 members and more than 100 posts in the last 24 hours, with about 65.8 comments an hour right now. From the Redlisten index, refreshed daily.

4,930,342members
100+posts in the last 24 hours, newest 12 min ago
65.8comments an hour right now, newest 13 min ago
6,687points on the top thread this week

Words coming up in r/dating_advice this week

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Top threads this week

  1. I cold approached a girl sitting with 3 friends.

    So after work this evening, I decided to go to this rotary sushi bar instead of going straight home just to kind of snack on some rolls and think about shit lately in my life. I was assigned the...

    6,687 points1,515 comments6 d ago
  2. Is it normal for guys to never get approached by girls?

    Hey everyone, I’m a guy and I’ve noticed that in my entire dating/social life so far, I’ve never been approached or hit on by a girl first. I’m the one who always has to make the first move if...

    1,603 points1,403 comments6 d ago
  3. Tell me your "I found my person in my 30s" stories

    Hi all! I’m not necessarily looking for advice but I’ve been feeling a little down lately about the possibility of finding my person later in life than I originally expected. I’d love to hear some...

    997 points319 comments4 d ago
  4. My friend approached a girl while she was sitting with her MOTHER… I still can't believe he actually did it 😂

    So my friend told me something that happened to him recently, and honestly, I couldn't stop laughing when he told me. He was out grabbing a coffee after work when he noticed a really pretty girl...

    850 points108 comments3 d ago
  5. Just reject me directly instead of playing the fake busy game

    Honestly, just reject me with your chest instead of playing this "busy schedule" charade. Went on two great dates with a guy last month. Good banter, kissed at the end of the second date, texted...

    729 points197 comments1 d ago
  6. I (29M) fell in love with my lesbian friend (24F). She rejected me, but then turned our dynamic into an intense "pseudo-relationship" that is tearing me apart.

    I (29M) met this friend (24F) about 3 months ago. From day one, we had incredible chemistry. For the first two months, we would talk for hours about everything, facetime each other, hang out, and...

    590 points166 comments3 d ago
  7. Three dates in and he always picks places next to his gym. Am I being slotted between workouts?

    Am I crazy or is this actually weird? Met a guy on an app about three weeks ago. We've gone out three times and honestly the dates themselves have been fun, he's funny, asks questions, no red...

    563 points668 comments2 d ago
  8. Do some women like taken men?

    I'm engaged to a wonderful woman, who I'm head over heels for. I went out on a group outing, tonight a few friends, a couple loose contacts I don't know very well. While waiting for my fiance to...

    551 points553 comments3 d ago
  9. Asking consent is getting me rejected

    So the consent discussion has been going on for a while now and the importance of it has been beaten to death. Asking consent=sexy according to women. However I have gotten rejected many times...

    505 points893 comments5 d ago
  10. Dog etiquette and basic consideration: am I being too picky about the guy I'm seeing?

    I (27F) have been seeing a guy for a while. We have a lot in common, which is hard to find in the city, and I was hoping this would turn into something serious. Then I started noticing a pattern,...

    453 points1,657 comments5 d ago

Newest posts

  1. Bbw on my face
    1 points1 comment12 min ago
  2. Dates not over their ex
    1 points1 comment13 min ago
  3. A woman I had a great connection with reached out again after two months, but I'm currently dating someone else. What should I do?
    1 points1 comment17 min ago
  4. Do men care about a women’s financial status?
    1 points1 comment34 min ago
  5. How do I know if this guy likes me and what do I do if he might?
    1 points1 comment35 min ago
  6. How to not go crazy about someone who texts very slowly?
    1 points0 comments35 min ago
  7. Does he like me, or am I just reading too much into things?
    1 points1 comment48 min ago
  8. What do I even do?
    1 points1 comment54 min ago
  9. Second date
    1 points1 comment55 min ago
  10. I don’t know what to do with this guy I like
    1 points1 comment58 min ago
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