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What r/dating is talking about this week

r/dating has 6,280,599 members and 10 posts in the last 24 hours, with about 10.2 comments an hour right now. From the Redlisten index, refreshed daily.

6,280,599members
10posts in the last 24 hours, newest 1 h ago
10.2comments an hour right now, newest 8 h ago
908points on the top thread this week

Words coming up in r/dating this week

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Top threads this week

  1. This man won me over by following up with my recommendations

    I've \[31F\] been talking to this guy \[32M\] for about a month. We had three dates, then I had to travel and we texted through my trip. Now we're both sick, but hopefully date 4 will happen soon....

    908 points196 comments6 d ago
  2. Fuck ghosting. Seriously

    I just want to vent and remind people to be honest with their dates. I (34F) recently went on a date with a man(35M). What got me out on the date with him was that communication, honesty, and...

    182 points122 comments5 d ago
  3. I am going to be alone forever and I feel like I have failed.

    No matter the physical effort I put in, no matter what advice I implement from friends and therapists over several years, no matter the self improvement books or videos I read, nothing has worked....

    127 points96 comments3 d ago
  4. I keep attracting men that are the complete opposite of me. The men that have a lot in common with are not interested .I don’t know what to do because I don’t wanna be in a incompatible relationship . Anyone have any advice

    I’m 34. Outgoing . Liberal. Goofy Talkative . Love to travel have new experiences . I attract men that like are serious shy men Barely talk. Don’t like to go anywhere . Religious men who want to...

    125 points59 comments4 d ago
  5. Got stood up for the first time

    Well I'm 32, and just got stood up for the first time. We matched on a dating app, we had a few good back and forths, than we decided to plan on a date. She gave me her number, and we planned one...

    110 points53 comments6 d ago
  6. I'm super far behind at 29, how do I speedrun everything I was supposed to learn over the last 10~ years?

    I've essentially spent the last 10 years or so just fixing myself to be good enough and I think I'm finally at a spot where I'm close. I still need to finish a few aspects of my fitness (no abs...

    99 points83 comments7 d ago
  7. Losing interest in dating?

    Heey everyone I’m F28, been single for about 3 years now. I used to be somebody who lovedddd being in a relationship but idk lately dating has taken a backseat? I get approached quite frequently...

    67 points39 comments4 d ago
  8. You just dont know, do you?

    So. Today, i found out the person i've been getting close to and sleeping with is a repeat child sex offender. I'm glad i found out early, im glad that past relationships mean that i run the...

    60 points16 comments3 d ago
  9. Can having sex too soon jeopardize a relationship?

    I feel like the answer to this is obviously "yes," but I guess I'd like more input on the how and why. I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (20M) for only 2 months, but it honestly feels like I've...

    58 points83 comments6 d ago
  10. Should I make it clear early on any sort of non monogamy (like threesomes) are a FUCK NO?

    A recent convo with my friends reminded of another conversation I had with my ex years back. She asked about threesomes once, and I thought I was clear when I said "no... fuck no" She then asked...

    57 points55 comments6 d ago

Newest posts

  1. I’ve internalised that expressing my sexual side as a guy is wrong?
    1 points1 comment1 h ago
  2. Second date went well but it still feels more like a friendship and I’m confused
    1 points1 comment6 h ago
  3. Some people I feel are just looking for a butler
    1 points1 comment8 h ago
  4. Wanted to feel wanted
    1 points1 comment8 h ago
  5. Does a guy being physically forward mean he just wants a hookup?
    1 points1 comment11 h ago
  6. Can he finally ask..
    1 points1 comment13 h ago
  7. People can’t hold a convo
    1 points1 comment16 h ago
  8. Dating is so bizarre now
    1 points1 comment21 h ago
  9. How often do you want to talk to someone you’re just starting to get to know to know ? I notice a lot of people will text you all day for 2-3 days and then suddenly get cold
    1 points0 comments23 h ago
  10. At this point, I am begging to be dumped instead of just ghosted.
    1 points1 comment24 h ago
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