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What r/AsOneAfterInfidelity is talking about this week

r/AsOneAfterInfidelity has 128,203 members and 15 posts in the last 24 hours, with about 3.7 comments an hour right now. From the Redlisten index, refreshed daily.

128,203members
15posts in the last 24 hours, newest 1 h ago
3.7comments an hour right now, newest 3 min ago
368points on the top thread this week

Words coming up in r/AsOneAfterInfidelity this week

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Top threads this week

  1. I don’t think you truly understand what being cheated on does to a person until it happens to you

    Before it happened to me, I always thought I understood. I'd hear someone's story and think wow that's awful. If it ever happened to me, I'd walk away. No questions asked. But I never truly...

    368 points48 comments4 d ago
  2. 15 years after my wife's affair, new details have destroyed me all over again. Can a marriage ever truly recover?

    First, I apologize for the length. I know nobody wants to read a novel, but every marriage, betrayal, and reconciliation is different. I feel the background is important to understand why I'm...

    88 points38 comments2 d ago
  3. How do you get past knowing your partner felt that intense sexual desire for someone else?

    Losing the feeling of being special and valuing the relationship less than I used to Ten years ago, my husband was intensely attracted to someone else and actively chose to sustain and indulge in...

    75 points31 comments4 d ago
  4. My 3 Year Update

    This week marks 3 years since our DD3 and the beginning of sincere R for my WH and me. For context, married 26 years at the time, my WH had a 6 month PA/EA with a woman he met at work who was 15...

    73 points23 comments3 d ago
  5. 3 years later….. this kind of sucks

    To keep a long story short, my wife (33f) had an affair a bit over 3 years ago and it burned quite a few things down. It was actually someone who she slept with on a “break” we had in 2015. It was...

    71 points22 comments6 d ago
  6. thank you 🫶🏻

    To anyone who has shared their experience on this page and those I’ve personally interacted with, thank you from the bottom of my heart for making me feel less alone in this world. When you are...

    60 points3 comments5 d ago
  7. Big Move

    1.5 yrs past DDay. My cheating husband has done the work, never avoids the hard conversations, accepts full responsibility, is remorseful. I just could not stay at the house (yes he brought her to...

    58 points9 comments4 d ago
  8. Sold the car

    Got rid of the car they had sex in. Had it detailed thoroughly twice including steam cleaned after I (54F) learned of the affair but that never got rid of the ickiness. We (me and WH - 52M) bought...

    55 points38 comments4 d ago
  9. Ten years out

    I'm a 46-year-old man. Pretty normal person. I'm quite analytical, and from the outside I might appear emotionally flat. Very few people have actually gotten to know me deeply, and I have few...

    48 points4 comments21 h ago
  10. We survived the affair, but a lack of intimacy is slowly killing us

    We've been together nearly 20 years. About 3 years ago was the big DDay where I learned my WW was having an emotional affair and was in love with another man. A lot has happened in that 3 years....

    44 points26 comments3 d ago

Newest posts

  1. WP suddenly hypervigilant after D-day…?
    4 points3 comments1 h ago
  2. Triggers with intimacy after massage parlours
    3 points4 comments4 h ago
  3. Idk if i can go through anymore.
    0 points3 comments4 h ago
  4. Dealing with cruel words WS said during A
    5 points1 comment7 h ago
  5. Holidays
    3 points4 comments9 h ago
  6. 23 year marriage
    15 points10 comments14 h ago
  7. How to heal after getting cheated on by someone you’ve known your whole life
    4 points1 comment15 h ago
  8. Pressure to "make progress". How to manage?
    5 points3 comments16 h ago
  9. Journalling ideas?
    6 points5 comments17 h ago
  10. Unique trauma response
    4 points15 comments17 h ago
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