- They give Black adoptees and foster kids to anybody don't they?
They give us to any damn body. I'm a Black former foster who is 100 percent against wine people fostering or adopting Black kids. I have my reasons based on lived experiences but also connecting...
66 points37 comments3 d ago
- infant adoption
I feel so lonely and i have my whole life. my adoptive family tells me that adoption can’t have impacted me because i was adopted at ten months so i don’t even remember it. but i lived in an...
57 points22 comments2 d ago
- Why are birthdays so hard for adoptees?
Why are birthdays so hard for adoptees? I was adopted from Russia when I was 2 years old, and I’ve always been somewhat sensitive about my adoption. When I was 13, I came out of the adoption fog...
35 points28 comments2 d ago
- Bonds matter more than DNA siblings
Long story short: I wished my biological brother a happy birthday on social media and sent him a gift. We built a relationship over the past few years, and I would not say it's perfect, but it's...
33 points19 comments5 d ago
- Small vent
Just have to vent that after 5 decades on this planet, I'm SO incredibly tired of the constant dismissal of our lived experience and of our pain. That's all, that's the vent: I'm fed up with the...
32 points4 comments2 d ago
- What are you supposed to do when everything and everyone seems consistently fake to you as adoptee?
All of my life as an adoptee I've felt severe disconnect from my family, no mirroring, constantly adapting to everyone else's needs/ demands, to the point i erased myself and became resentful. My...
32 points13 comments4 d ago
- Biggest Reunification Surprise
Found my sister after all these years, and somehow there was no awkward beginning. Just instant rhythm, same wavelength, same weird little frequency. When we met, there was no strangeness or...
32 points17 comments6 d ago
- Name changes
It really bothers me that APs claim that they want to change their child’s name to match their own, and it’s about love and inclusion. If they really wanted to have the same last name as me, why...
30 points14 comments22 h ago
- My Second Trip to México, Birth Family and Acceptance.
Hey my people! Thanks for the replies and to whoever voted for me for the TopHost podcast competition! I made the top 5 so please keep voting daily until they announce the winner this Thursday...
22 points2 comments1 d ago
- Adoption fucking sucks
I’ll never meet my birth family, I’ll never know my birth mother or my birth father. I’ll never have a dad. I’ll always be the black sheep of my adopted family. I have no lineage, I am alone....
19 points0 comments3 h ago